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3 Simple Practices to Attract Your Perfect Match

How to Find the Right Partner
Shelly Bullard
Written by Shelly Bullard

I know you’re wanting to attract great love. A person who will be an incredible partner to you. A guy who sets your heart on fire; someone you can trust and be with long-term.

I want you to know that you can have him. In fact, you can have him fast.

Fulfillment: The Key to Everything

Even if you’ve been searching for love for awhile and you haven’t been able to find it, there is one secret that you must know about that will bring a great person to you. And it is this:

You must feel fulfilled by your life in order for a fulfilling man to arrive into your life.

How to Manifest the Partner You Want

When you are able to do this, opportunities for great relationships will appear in front of you. Let me explain why:

Most of us, when single, become hyper-focused on the lack of a partner. We feel like something’s missing. We’re consumed with the fact that he isn’t here yet.

While focusing all this energy on not having a relationship, you attract more of the same: Not having a relationship!! And that’s not what you want, is it?!

When you’re able to feel fulfilled before he gets here — when you’re happy, confident and content regardless of your relationship status — then a man becomes the bonus to your incredible life. He’s not your “goal” anymore; he’s the addition to what’s already good. Ironically, this is the most attractive quality a woman can have.

Connecting to Love (or Being Fulfilled From the Inside-Out)

I know it might sound difficult to feel fulfilled before your love arrives, especially if you really want a relationship. But let me assure you, it’s not as hard as you think. The essential step to making it happen is connecting to the deep sense of love, source, passion, life, excitement, and exuberance that naturally lives within you. 

We’ve all had experiences of feeling beautiful, aligned, connected, happy, joyful, and fulfilled from the inside-out. All these good feelings live inside of you; they’re yours to access whenever you want, if you choose to do so. When you create a practice of connecting to this love over and over again, you begin to feel fulfilled from the inside-out.

And this is what attracts a partner to you. 

How To Attract the Man of Your Dreams

To get you started on this path, here are three easy practices that will help you feel fulfilled from the inside-out. Practice these daily, and watch how they impact the attraction and attention you get from men as a result.

1) Heart Meditation

Close your eyes, take a few breaths, and focus on the area around your heart.

While you are keeping your attention there, start to think about memories or thoughts that make you very happy. This could be people you love, places you like to visit, or anything else that makes your heart sing.

Notice how the love within you easily grows and grows, just from you stretching your imagination and tapping into the love that already exists inside you. If you do this daily you’ll feel incredible, and be glowing as a result.

2) Gratitude

Gratitude puts us in an incredible mood because it helps us realize that we already have so much! Again, often when we crave a relationship, we’re focused on not having a man. This deflates our energy.

Instead, focus on all the things you do have, and watch your happiness and contentment levels soar. Staying in the mentality of having will keep you feeling fulfilled (and attractive) as a result.

3) Self-Appreciation

You are an incredible woman. If you don’t know that deep down, you won’t be able to feel a man’s love for you.

At night before you go to sleep, write a love note to yourself. List all the things you love about yourself, and feel how special you are. The more you regard yourself as a catch, the more a man will, too.

Remember, you have to feel incredibly fulfilled in your life if you want to attract a man to create a fulfilling relationship with. Practice these steps, connect with your soul, feel the love that lives within you, and you truly can have anyone you want.

Please leave a comment below telling us one practice you are going to start to feel fulfilled from the inside-out, helping you attract in the man of your dreams. I look forward to hearing from you!

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About the author

Shelly Bullard

Shelly Bullard

Shelly Bullard, MFT is a Marriage and Family Therapist, Love Coach and Spiritual Teacher. She's the author of the book How to Become the Most Attractive Version of Yourself.

Shelly believes that when you access the experience of Love within yourself, your relationships become deeply fulfilling and you become the person you’re meant to be. She was named the “Love Guru” as one of the 100 Women to Watch in Wellness by mindbodygreen, and her deepest passion is living and practicing love and relationships as a spiritual path.